Baldr
The second of Odin's sons, and the wisest of the Æsir, Baldr was admired for his beauty, graciousness, and fairness.
[Baldr] is best, and all praise him; he is so fair of feature, and so bright, that light shines from him.
However, Baldr had a prophetic dream of his untimely death, and was troubled by this vision. The Mother of All, Frigg, made every object across the worlds vow never to bring harm to Baldr. All objects swore except for mistletoe.
Mistletoe
So, we've started to build our inner-confidence for social encounters, but what killed that confidence in the first place? No person is born an introvert, without friends, or socially inept. Even if they are highly intelligent (nerd), that person is still born with the abilities to interact with other humans. There was a mistletoe somewhere along the line, be it in 1st grade when you had braces on your legs wth Jenny screaming behind you "Run Forrest!" - or in 6th when you peed on yourself because you held it in too long. Whatever the circumstances, something killed your social confidence. Now where does this social cofidence REALLY come into play? What's the most important thing to everyone reading this blog? The opposite (or same) sex.
One of the biggest blocks to total confidence comes in the form of people we want to date, have sex with, or just get to know. It's the mistletoe to damn near every unconfident person out there, because we're all trying to please someone, and that someone is usually a woman (or man...or both..) Okay wait..
Note: Fuck politcal correctness from now on. Use some goddamn comprehension and logic when you read this if you are not a male (or straight). Just change the wording to suit your needs.
The biggest blow to anyone's self-confidence is rejection. Again, your mind is an extremely powerful device and rejection can sometimes be an emotionally harmful experience to go through. Why? Because, as humans, we are brought up with the ideas that our self-worth is determined by others liking us (caring, loving, friends, etc.). Because of that, when someone (or many people) rejects us, it's an extremely big deal because that means we're unacceptable in some major way. That's depressing as hell. So what does your mind do? It protects you from that bad/harmful experience subconciously while fucking you up socially in the process. Now why would my mind do that? Im glad you asked. The subconscious of your mind cannot tell the difference between reality and non-reality. Whatever you think, it intreprets as good or bad (this is a very, very, very condensed analogy).
Example: A scary movie. You know it's not real, yet you're scared anyways.
So, you get rejected, horribly. Your mind now works to guard you from that fear/danger/hurt of rejection. You get a growing fear, or anxiety, everytime you may want to speak to a girl. You keep to yourself instead of going out socially in order to avoid that rejection.
Höðr
Slaying the ignorant who killed your confidence will not be easy. This is where your Járngreipr come in handy. If you don't happen to know what that is, or don't have yours yet, please do read the last chapter. Self-Assuredness covers EVERY aspect of social confidence - No questions asked, no doubts about it. However, that bastard of a brain takes a while to rewire when we're taking such smalls steps as these (A big step would be some random hot girl laying you). In order too fool Mr.Subconscious, we have to play his game. Remember when I said Mr.Sub can't tell between reality and non? Haha fucker, we got you beat. So what do we need to portray in our minds, in order to kill the idea that rejection is a death sentence? Complete and utter lying bullshit. What happens when you want to talk to a woman? You get hit with so much logic your brain reels:
She won't like me.
I don't know what to say.
I have pimples.
She'll laugh.
I'll die if she laughs
What would we do anyways?
She's a cheerleader! I can't do it.
What else happens? As we said before, you may get an extremely deep feeling of anxiety, or fear. Even if you do talk to her, you may stumble over your words, have absolutely nothing to say, forget what you wanted to say, say something shitty that you didn't want to say, do something extremely stupid you woulnd't normally do, etc. This is your Mr.Sub fighting with Mr.Con(scious) and he's winning each and everytime.
Váli
Again, know your self and be proud of who you are. With your Járngreipr, alone, you can get through any rejection. If you know your worth, and your values, quirks, habits, hobbies, flaws, strengths and weaknesses - and you are PROUD of them, no rejection could ever penetrate that sheild. They obviously don't know what they're missing, because you are you - and you'll never down yourself because of what others think of you again when you think you are awesome. However, it isn't that simple. We have one foe standing in our path, and that is Mr.Sub, the ultimate agent in the Matrix.
The Second Stone - Social~Confidence
How do we rebuild social confidence? Get out, rinse, repeat. Then we play mind games, because that's all this is.
Plains of Asgard
- Arm yourself with your Járngreipr each day before going out. Put it in your wallet, or back pocket, where you'll see it often. Remind yourself that you have them on and what they represent.
- Go to a public/social gathering, or place, and introduce yourself to as many different women as you can handle, working to get their number. Don't stop and wait for chapter 3 until you've been rejected by 10 women. This will get Mr.Sub thinking that rejections aren't that bad. Why? Because you didn't die from any of them. You're going to have to fight your mind to do this one, and you may damn well think I'm crazy. Stop reading my shit if you can't butter my toast.
- After a rejection, go and write down (in detail) the situation. Try to find out exactly where you may have earned that rejection, and then work on fixing it. Then, move out again and go for rejection #2 (and so on..)
Note: Again..Look up the names if you don't know them. They have a purpose, and let's the blog click nicely if you knwo the background behind them. I'll post an index maybe later on.
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