Valkyrie
Choosers of the slain. The Valkyrie were beautiful women who rode upon wolves amidst the fury of battle. These female disir chose those who fought heroically, and upon death, took them to the hall that is Valhalla.
then appeared, in the field of air, a helmed band of Valkyriur: their corslets were with blood besprinkled, and from their spears shone beams of light.
Art by pascalblanche of DeviantArt.
The Raven
This is a problem that plagues a lot of people, and not just socially but personally as well. As humans who value themselves, which is what you are now if you've been staying with this path, we have certain rules that people must adhere to in order to be in our company. We define these as standards and they apply to everyone you meet. The women you want to date must meet certain standards, your close friends and companions must meet certain standards, your teacher/preacher/moral adviser must all meet certain standards in order to hold value in your eyes. At least...I hope so. We even hold standards for ourselves in how we must present ourselves to others, our personal health, our performance in school/work/sex. However, how do we know if our standards are too high or too low? Are you sure you have standards at all? We'll see. but first we need to know what standards are and why we have them.
So, what exactly does a 'standard' entail? There are many types, and many variations, but generally - A standard is a rule or trait a person uses that others must fulfill before gaining rapport with said person.
Why do we need standards? I want to accept everyone! Good luck with that, and fortunately, that standard may just work for you. However, some standards are even there for our safety/personal comfort such as your acquaintances should be clean, or not curse around you, etc.
Alright, so I know what a standard is, but what's their value when it comes to relationships? People value those who have an aura of authority about them. Think of how you may feel about a Sergeant, your pastor, even your father. One key part of attracting women is showing that you are a leader. It shows that you are so secure with yourself, and valued so much by those around you, that you can actually dictate who is worthy of your company. Cliques. Like the Hot Girl click, when a beautiful girl is surrounded by 3-4 not as pretty friends - They value her looks, attitude, and control over guys while she may value their conversation, ability to listen, and emotional support. Now other girls are jealous of this Hot Girl clique because of the value trade-off they have. You MUST do the same when it comes to building solid, long-lasting relationships, because it makes sure that you have people around you that value you and you, them.
Valhalla
Confidence plays a big part in enforcing your standards, because you WILL have to confront those around you who may continually break your rules. It's not mean, or evil, to want people around you that make your life better. Why surround yourself with negativity? It's a good idea to start out early telling people what you expect from certain relationships. With women (maybe 20-30 minutes after I've met them) I say, "I don't really appreciate people who commit to things and then flake out. You're not flaky are you?" Now no one wants to say they have a negative trait, so of course she's going to say no. However, what if she did flake on a date we schedualed for that Saturday? Then I may call her and say, "Hey, listen. I don't know what type of friends you have, or what people you may hang out with that allow you to not consider others, but I won't be one of them. I value my time a little too much to waste it with people who aren't sucure enough to at least say, 'No.' in the first place...etc..etc.." I'm NEVER angry with what I say, but I'm completely serious. It's your job to do the same. If you don't want cursing around you, or smoking in your car, or people who are always late, then express that. You have a right to be happy, and you need to work to ensure that those around you do nothing but promote your happiness and well-being.
The Fourth Stone - Standards
How do I build my standards? You need to find out what is attractive to you when it comes to relationships, and what makes you unhappy. You are the lawmaker, and traits that make you unhappy are illegal in your book. Stand strong with your rules, and those who really value your company will make sure to obey them.
Plains of Asgard
- Make a list with 3 columns: Friends, Family, Relationships. Under each, write down standards that you require each to have, such as your friends not cursing around you, or your uncle not drinking in you presence, and a guy knowing when to be funny and when to act mature. Make sure it's extensive and that you cover just about everything you can think of. Then highlight the 3 most important ones, these are your core values. A person is instantly shunned when they do not follow this rule.
- Make sure those around you may know your rules. You don't have to explicitly tell them what they are, but when they break one, let them know that you don't approve of it. If they continue to break it, make sure they know that they could lose your company because of it. Stand strong and confident and don't be afraid to remove those around you who may be detrimental to your well-being.
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